WE ARE ALL IN THIS TOGETHER. WE ARE ONE.
"White Dog, Black Dove"
This phrase was in my mind as I awoke this morning, which brings me to the topic of suicide and mental health awareness, violence against others.
The Black Dog symbolises depression, a dark demonic presence that sits on the back of its victim, fangs expressed hungry to attack.
For so many, the only way out is to suicide.
Generally, these people are suffering in silence and what I notice the most is that the mask they wear is so thick that to the outside world...the consensus is always shock...
"...they seemed so happy...why didn't they say anything...I wish I knew as I could've gotten them help...etc"
The White Dove symbolises Peace, Love, Surrender, Hope and Harmony (and is also symbolic of domestic violence awareness).
White Dog, Black Dove is a message to merge both conceptual polarities,(which actually dissolves all into all) being the lower mind and the higher mind, the light and dark into oneness without attachment or distorted perceptions.
You cannot have the perception of light without the dark and vice versa. Hence, 3 years ago, I was commanded to let go of both.
This is Peace, Freedom and Liberation.
This is Balance. Alignment. NOWness.
Yesterday I had a conversation with a friend who said he can't stand the question of RUOK?
I was quite surprised, but so blessed for the conversation to be had.
For men in particular it's been stigmatised to the power of infinity to show no emotion, to ask for help...they've been conditioned to "man up, suck it up, pull your head in, real men don't cry etc"
Equally, it's these conditionings that can see these men (who are generally suffering themselves) lash out in emotional and/or physical abuse towards others.
This goes for women also, I must point out, as I've had several male friends go through abuse from their female partners. It's actually more common than you'd realise as men will generally not seek help or talk about it as it's embarrassing for them and feel deeply shameful.
EDUCATION & AWARENESS IS KEY.
The more we assist people to assist themselves to get help, the more we can end the cycles of suicide and violence against others.
The more we educate people on how to deal with their emotions, the more we will experience unity and peace.
It takes courage and bravery to ask for help and I wish to ask anyone who relates to any of this, to seek professional help and take action in whatever way is necessary.
Part of my conversation yesterday was about the lack of education regarding what to actually do if someone says they're not ok.
As I mentioned to my friend, the response is generally..."she'll be right mate, you're just being negative, there's nothing wrong with you..."
If you are that friend for someone who reaches out to you.
For GOD'S SAKE, give them a hug, listen and don't talk.
They're not looking for advice or judgement, they're wanting comfort and understanding.
TAKE THEM TO A DOCTOR and get them professional help.
If you're emotionally involved with this person, you'll not be able to give them the assistance they really need. By all means be there for them, offer them your support, check in on them, but it's your job to set them up with a professional.
Today I sit in this space of sending unconditional love to all who are suffering and to all who are supporting others who are suffering.
As I also mentioned to my friend yesterday, a huge sign someone needs help is if they're angry, bursting out, fighting with you or seeming to be negative or unbearable to be around.
PLEASE TAKE THIS AS A SIGN TO START THE CONVERSATION AND ASK THEM IF THEY'RE OKAY.
Often it's a defence mechanism when someone is in depression, to self isolate, they'll make you not want to be around them.
Another side of the coin is the mechanism to appear overly happy and joyful.
In this case, you've got to intuit very small signs...like cancelling meet ups, looking off into the distance when in conversation, the eyes tell the story if you look for it...is there a numbness present, how are they dressed, how is their hair, how is their body language...are their feet shaking, hands trembling, shallow breathing?
Be so PRESENT that you can be in awareness of the subtle signs.
Regardless, if you suspect even a hint of something going on...please take action...act with compassion and be honest that you don't have the answers, but direct them to getting to someone who can assist them.
WE ARE ALL IN THIS TOGETHER. WE ARE ONE.